Why did my mother or father say or not say this?
Why did my partner do or not do that? Why is it so hard to move on from old hurts?
How do I move on from the pain of past relationships?
A common theme I have noticed in recent times is clients asking the question…how do I move on from my pain?
Why can’t I let it go? It still upsets me, I think I’m over the relationship, dealt with it, but it still affects and hurts me, why?
Triggers are all around you, they bring memories and emotions which in-turn raise feelings, reminders, flashbacks of past hurts.
Part of the journey of life is to have relationships and grow through them.
Conscious or not you’re in relationships with everyone; friends, family, lovers, relationships in your business/work life as well. Some relationships are positive, some are a little more challenging and these are the ones giving you the greatest opportunity to learn and grow.
So how do you let go of past hurts or old relationships and move on?
- Let go of the blame game, it doesn’t get you anywhere.
- Look for what’s not resolved within yourself, any unworthiness or fear.
- Ask, are you looking for love outside of yourself?
- Are you seeking approval from those around you, instead of trusting in yourself and standing in your power?
- Are you taking full responsibility for your life?
I’ve found with myself and my clients letting go of the ‘why’ creates a space to move forwards and find inner peace.
The ‘why’ will take you round in circles and even if you’ve ever understood why someone else did something, it won’t change it.
I know it’s a difficult pill to swallow but “acceptance” changes everything.
Trying to figure out why someone did something is trying to work out what you did ‘wrong’
What if you didn’t do anything wrong?
What if you only need some new skills so you can learn more about yourself and move on to happier and more fulfilling relationships?
As I mentioned earlier relationships are powerful teachers if you let them be.
You may have been viewing yourself through the eyes of someone else and judging yourself based on their criteria.
By seeing yourself through your own eyes of love, accepting and supporting yourself, you will find peace and joy.
Interested in knowing more?
Here is the link to my Materialise Love Course, which will help you develop new skills you can easily integrate into your life, creating the relationships you’ve always wanted.
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