I’ve been asked on so many occasions, how do I love myself?
How can I stop feeling guilty and regain my sense of self?
Can you relate to this???
Just sharing some simple tips which have helped me and my clients find greater peace, love and happiness.
This, I believe is the missing piece to finding greater inner peace.
It’s really quite simple, two easy steps!!!
Make a choice to say “YES” next time someone offers to help you.
- Be willing to say “NO”
- Saying NO is one of the most difficult things to do. Agree???
Maybe you’ve fallen into being a people pleaser or over achiever and have found yourself saying yes to everything.
I know I’ve been in both categories and it’s draining.
What about you???
Consider these options as the sign it’s ok to say NO
- When what’s being asked of you is out of alignment with your morals and values
- When you don’t have the energy to fulfil what’s being asked of you
- Maybe you just don’t want to do it (that’s the best reason to say no!)
- Your sense of obligation is overwhelming and you know if you say “yes” you will feel resentful
- When you have a focus which is important to you and someone else wants to put their needs before yours
It’s all about having strong personal boundaries and knowing you’re the only one who can make you happy!
Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated…Confucius
What do you feel about this, topic? Love to hear your thoughts and feelings
Have you ever wondered what love really is? Or how you can get more love in your life?
I recently posed the question on Facebook “What is love to you?” as I was curious to hear what people really thought about this.The one answer that really stood out for me was this one from Monique Farbrother.
Her simple answer struck a chord within me as I realized how difficult it can be to know “how” to find love within. She said ” Being able to find love within yourself, for yourself so love can come back to you”
Other interesting answers about what love is were,
- “Freedom” which came up a few times,
- “Being there for yourself 100%” (Thank you Janelle Goldman)
- “Feeling connection with partner”
- “A warm and smushy place” (love this one Kelly Hanlon),
- “Being happy and peaceful, not being judged”
Through my own experiences and my readings for people I know at the core of us all is the eternal quest for love, to know it, to feel it, to understand it and to have more of it.
If “Love” is the answer to all mankind’s problems, which I believe it is, the
“What is the Question?”
My Questions Around Love
Wow, years ago that thought opened up a minefield within me as a zillion questions I have had came rushing to the surface! The question is the puzzle, what we have come here to overcome so we can find the Holy Grail of Love.
Why did my parents split up?
What did I do wrong?
Why was my mother angry all the time?
When will my body heal?
These are some of the many questions that have run their course through my mind over the years, none of which helped me be more peaceful, free or loving.
Finding my pathway to love was like being in an overgrown jungle, ready with the machete in hand, having to fight my way through the brambles and endure the sting of mosquito bites, the pain of hard work to get to the core of where love lived within me. It was like doing battle every day, being at war with unknown enemy, except the war was raging within me.
If it were so simple, we would all just do it. We would be there for ourselves every moment of the day, we would chose freedom over everything else, we would love openly, freely and life would become the heaven on earth we want it to be.
The Answer Appears
A light bulb moment happened as I realised every day I was faced with living life which seemed to bring every horrible feeling I had about myself to the surface. I wanted to run, to hide , to escape. I didn’t like this thing called life. Then it dawned on me.
What if I could rearrange my view of life as having been rotten and the events were the things getting in the way of loving myself? Could I could see all feelings and emotions as the secret key, the means to finding love for myself first and ultimately for others
That worked for me!
I found in order to have more love in my own life I had to make some conscious choices and let go of the excuses. I now realise you don’t find love sitting on a mountaintop or being alone. You find it in the mud, the blood and the tears, (thank you Johnny Cash for that amazing song!) In the psychedelic messiness of life, love is there waiting for you to recognise its endurance, its strength its unconditional acceptance of you and who you really are,
The new questions that came to me were, the “how” questions.
Hopefully they may help you too as you let go of the Whys in your story.
- How can I do the things I know fulfil me and sustain my joy?
- How can I release the fear of letting others down, making enough money to survive, feeling I am as good as the next person?
- How can I view the context of my life differently?
- How can I accept I chose this life?
Letting go of the “Whys” was one of the wisest choices I made, as it lead me to inner exploration and self awareness.
Love to hear your comments or thoughts on finding love within you and thanks to all who contributed to the question on Facebook!
Are ready to find more love within you? Why not contact me now and book now for a spiritual healing session and join the many who I have helped. Distance is not a barrier, Skype or phone works as well in any situation.
Much love as you journey to greater spiritual unity and inner peace
Think of that feeling you get in your body just before you drop off to sleep or when you first awaken in the morning after a good nights sleep. The feelings I have experienced are of being expanded, calm and relaxed.
One of the many benefits of meditation is to relax your body and mind enabling you to feel peace and calmness.
Meditation is a gift to you. It doesn’t have to be sitting in a lotus position or difficult. It can also help you sleep better.
There are numerous benefits of meditation being part of your daily life.
Here is my list of the top 5 benefits of meditation based on what it has brought to my life:
- A reason to stop and be still
- A chance to slow the chatter in the mind
- An opportunity to know myself better
- Time to sit with Spiritual Guidance
- Feeling of connectedness to something greater
3 Simple Ways To Meditate
- Listen to a guided meditation
- Spend time in nature
- Be creative, draw, paint, write sing or dance.
- Guided meditations help your mind focus on meditation and your breathing.
- Being in nature is healing and calming
- Being creative lets go of the analytical mind and gets you into the “flow” of life
I have found meditation to be the biggest catalyst in my own spiritual and psychic development. Listening to regular guided meditations will help you to let go of your conscious thoughts and experience inner peace and insights.
My Psychic Awakening Course has many meditations designed to help you connect with your higher self and maintain clear and grounded energy. Check it out here
So go on, find time to be with you!
You will Love it, I Know!
I have found that for many people the process of accepting the death of someone close is difficult. Grief can be a crushing pain in the heart as we know we have to face life without them by our side.
It is the ultimate part of life we have no control over.
The more I work with people and the more I connect with those in the spirit world, the more I understand that it is life that we are here to accept.
Life is a journey with a beginning and an end. It is the same for every living thing, nothing escapes.
When I think about my own life there are many parts I have struggled to accept. There has been a part of me that wanted to control everything and everyone, to keep people I loved close to me and not have them suffer any sort of pain. There was a part of me that did not want to age, to change or to die. It can happen to everyone else but not to me or my loved ones. Sound familiar?
Acceptance is not resignation or giving up or not caring. It is the realisation that we can stay in pain by wishing things were different. Acceptance has the power to life the clouds of grief and pain from our bodies and minds and more importantly from our hearts.
Our loved ones in the world of spirit are not in any physical pain as they no longer have a physical body. They have a soul that is eternal and the memories we have, the love we shared, the joy of being part of each other’s lives remains as long as we allow it too. We think they are not with us but they are. They walk along side of us and they only want our happiness just as we want theirs.
Wishing you peace as you travel on your journey through life………